What Most People Don't Know About Burnout: It's Not the Enemy of Success

Summary:

Burnout isn't the opposite of success. It is a sign that your current strategy has stopped working and that you're ready for your next phase of evolution.

The sooner you listen to burnout, the faster you get back on the path to success. The longer you ignore it, the louder it gets.

Q: What is Burnout?

One of the most common misconceptions I've found about burnout is that a lot of people think it's a sign that something is broken.

It's a sign you've lost your mojo. Lost your edge.

Or that it's a case of stress management.

Yes, stress is universal symptom of burnout, but it's not the root cause. The causes of burnout aren't universal. They're not one size fits all.

And most high performers treat burnout the way they've navigated most things in their life.

They try to push through it, manage it, or ignore it. But that just makes them burn out faster.

That's the cycle. And it's exhausting.

But the truth is that burnout isn't a productivity issue. It's not a result of working too hard. It's a sign you're doing something that no longer fits who you are or where you're headed.

Burnout is just information that something isn't working for you or that it's time for your next phase of evolution.

Human beings are evolutionary creatures. We're not meant to plateau. We're meant to grow.

So if you're experiencing burnout, the real question isn't, "How do I get rid of this burnout?" The question is, "What is this burnout trying to tell me?"

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Q: How Is Burnout Linked to Success?

While a lot of people have been talking about burnout for decades, what they've focused on is symptom management: mindset hacks, self care strategies, and stress reduction techniques.

All of those are great tools and great resources.

They're tools I use and, as an ICF-trained Certified Master Professional Coach, mindset is something I've been trained in.

The problem is that, when it comes to burnout, using those tools is like taking a screwdriver to a nail. It's the wrong tool for the wrong problem.

Mindset is an awesome tool when it comes to goal setting, overcoming imposter syndrome, and overriding the lizard brain response that comes with change. Those tools are great for exhaustion or for inspiring motivation.

But exhaustion and burnout are two different things and require two different approaches.

I learned this lesson the hard way. And when I hit my burnout, using the strategies that had led to my previous success just burned me out faster.

At the time my burnout symptoms hit, I had checked all of the boxes that, on paper, looked like success. I had the degrees, the career, the spouse, the house, and the kids.

But I'd reached a point where I felt stagnant. I felt stuck. And I couldn't figure out why.

According to my achievements, accomplishments, and assets, I had it all together.

The problem was that what had worked up to that point wasn't going to get me to where I needed to go next.

So I did what most people do: I tried to ignore it and push through it until my body gave out, my marriage caved in, and my career disappeared.

And while I listened to meditations, worked on stress reduction strategies, and applied the mindset hacks that had worked previously, nothing changed.

And that's when I realized my approach needed to change. If doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result is the definition of insanity, what I'd been doing was just plain crazy.

And since the tools and guidance available weren't working for me, I had to take the Robert Frost approach and carve my own path. To take the road less traveled.

It took me a decade of hard earned experience (what I call my Experience of Hard Knocks Degree, or E.h.D.), but after navigating my own path and rebuilding my life and my career from the ground floor up, I realized that the path didn't need to be as hard as I'd made it.

And as I saw and worked with countless individuals who were in the early stages of the same path, I was passionate and determined to help give them the tools that I didn't have. To help simplify the process and help others use simple, actionable strategies to get them back on the path to success sooner and with less pain than it had taken me.

People going through burnout say, "No one teaches you how to do this."

Well, that was true. Until now.

What I eventually came to understand is that most of us have a mistaken perception of burnout.

As high achievers, we want success. We want the feeling of being in flow, of making a meaningful contribution, of building a life that actually feels like ours. And we see burnout as the enemy.

But the truth is that burnout and success aren't enemies.

They're both just information our bodies, our emotions, and our life experience give us to keep us on track for our personal growth and personal success.

Success isn't an object. It's not a destination. It's a feeling. The one we get when we're feeling in the flow with life. When we feel connected in our relationships. When we feel like we're giving meaningful contributions to the world around us, whether it's through service or through our careers. It's like a cheerleader saying, atta girl. You're on the right track. Keep it up.

Burnout is also a feeling. It's a warning indicator light that something is off. It's like driving a car that's out of alignment. It can start with frustration or irritation, but the more you ignore it, the louder it gets. It may start in one area of life, but it eventually starts to bleed into everything, into your relationships, your sense of purpose, your energy, until life feels heavy and it's hard to find the motivation to get out of bed.

But it doesn't have to get to that point.

I learned the hard way, but because I did, you don't have to.

And what I learned is that burnout is actually an indicator that you're ready for your next level of growth. Your next level of success.

It's not telling you what's wrong. It's telling you what's not working, where you need to pivot, and what area of your life is ready to evolve.

And I learned that lesson standing in my closet. (But that's a story for another day._

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The Bottom Line:

If something in this post landed for you, a quiet "that's me," don't scroll past it.

That's your burnout trying to get your attention.

You don't have to fix it today. You just have to be willing to ask: What is this trying to tell me?

If you need Your Real Life Fairy Godmother™ to help you figure that out, that's exactly what we do at Emergence Life Coaching, and we’re just one step away.

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Kimberly Parry, Burnout Speaker and Certified Personal Stylist

About the Author

Kimberly Parry, known as Your Real Life Fairy Godmother™, is a TEDx speaker, Certified Personal Stylist, and ICF-trained Certified Master Professional Coach. She is the creator of the Succeed with Style™ Framework and founder of Emergence Life Coaching, where she combines fashion styling with personal and professional development to help high-performing individuals and organizations transform burnout and Succeed with Style™. Her work is built on a core belief that burnout isn't failure. It is feedback. When you know how to read it, it becomes the launchpad to your next level of success.